1) Rent/buy the movie "Swingers" immediately. Perfect perspective for a breakup and a great reminder not to be "that guy" moping and pining or calling her and leaving messages, etc. All of the advice in that movie is gold. Don't call her, let her call you, but know that she'll probably call right after you've gotten over her. Also an excellent moral to the story: she'll end up with a scrap metal salesman while in your future waits a Heather Graham type.
2) this is without knowing anything about your breakup or your relationship but knowing women in general: Women have completely different rules/agendas. Sometimes you think you're broken up and you're actually just being tested/manipulated to see if you're ready to take the next step. Sometimes you think you're together and you've actually been broken up without knowing it and when the breakup does get around to becoming official the reasons quoted have absolutely nothing to do with the situation. Sometimes you are too close to the action to properly analyze the HH.
3) Realize that most of what you're going through right now is just a mental construct (drama) and you can choose to spin it for your own purposes and perceive it differently. You weren't going to be together for a month anyway. Why should that separation be any more difficult than what you were already prepared for? If it turns out she's just using the previously planned separation as a test, why should you suffer unneccesarily when you otherwise would have happily played poker and xBox for a month? Unless you can see into the future, the situation hasn't actually changed as much as you perceive it to have changed.
Best of luck. |